I Think I've found “The One”, How Do I Know?

That special someone, it seems like a lifelong search.  From the time we were children, we’ve heard stories of Cinderella, and Beauty and the Beast.  Stories of love, surviving the grimmest odds.  Now that were Adults, and reality has set in.  Uncertainty surrounds us; and it is sometimes difficult to know if we’ve found that special someone.  

 

 When making the decision, that hard decision, it seems as though the ability to decide “with certainty” eludes us. 

 So we seek the advice of love one’s, family, friends, magazines, co-workers, and any one that might be able to shed some light on the subject.  All along, never really seeking the direction of “GOD”, and what he has to say about the matter.  

What’s Love Got to Do with It?

As children of God we are commanded to love one another, but when it comes to selecting a “suitable mate”, we should expect and even look for certain personality traits.  Paying attention to certain red flags, which are revealed from our observations.

God has instructed us to trust him, and allow him to direct and aide us in the decision making process of choosing a mate. 

First of all”, to clear the air, Ladies you should not be actively looking for a mate.  In fact, you should be actively waiting on the LORD, and asking GOD to prepare you to be “found”.  For it is Written: 

 

Proverbs 18:22 (NIV) He who finds a wife finds what is good
   and receives favor from the LORD. 

Once involved with the person we perceive to be “the one”, we should observe to see if certain things are present in the relationship. 1. Is there an unconditional love extended towards you?  Or is the person easily angered, and holds on to grudges?   For it is Written: 

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV) 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

 

2. After a misunderstanding is forgiveness extended quickly towards you, even if they’re right.  Is there an attempt to keep the peace, or are you made to pay for the discretion by days of silence or constant fighting? For it is Written

Colossians 3:12-13(NIV) ¹² Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. ¹³ Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 

 

3. Is your opinion regarded as important?  Can you talk to them and truly feel their listening, or are you disregarded, and made to feel as though your opinion doesn’t matter.  For it is Written:

James 1:19 (KJV) ¹⁹Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:

 

Proverbs 18:13 (KJV) ¹³He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him.

The point of the matter, simply stated is….. Take the time to really see if their confession of Christ is real.  Is their life style in line with the word of GOD?   Also, are they” living to please GOD”?   For it is Written:

Matthew 7:16-18 (NIV) ¹⁶ By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? ¹⁷ Likewise, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. ¹⁸ A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit.